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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so the expression goes. In one episode of the American television series, The Twilight Zone, a beautiful woman tries to undergo a procedure to disfigure her face because the society in which she lives views her as ugly. It is her attempt to gain acceptance. At one point in the story, a doctor describes the woman’s face as “the face of her real self”. Although I would argue that a person’s face does not reflect their “real self”, the implied message is to look beyond the surface to see the beauty that lies within a person.


I recently took part in a fashion show where professional hair and make-up artists augmented our facial features. The number of comments I received about how beautiful I looked led me to ask myself, am I not beautiful without the make-up and designer clothes? If left unchecked, this type of questioning can quickly wreak havoc on a person’s self-esteem.


Skimming the Surface


Via the media, our family and social groups, we receive messages all the time about the concept of beauty. The majority of these messages depict only the superficial aspect of beauty which is subjective yet powerful and can lead to unhealthy self-perception.


So how do we recognize the “real self” in others or even our own real self? Spiritual teachers often remind us that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. With this belief in mind we are asked to look beyond the physical body and recognize the Divine nature of every human being.


Divine Nature


Namaste, a Hindu salutation, which has become popularized by Yoga and spiritual groups around the world, is an acknowledgement of our Divine nature and is a way of honouring and respecting that Divinity.


If we looked beyond the surface to see a person’s inner beauty could there be hate, fear, war? If each of us were to recognize the Divine in the other and to embrace our own Divinity, the world would be a much more peaceful place.


Child’s Play


If you have ever watched small children as they encounter one another, you see them look into each other’s eyes, you see them smile, laugh and enjoy their coming together. Regardless of race or gender, they are enthralled with each other. I often wonder when and why this ease of embrace so often disappears.


When doing healing work we are often asked to connect with our inner child to comfort and soothe that child in us that may have been wounded at some point in our life. This inner child is our real self, our Divinity. Is this what small children see when they look at each other, the beauty of their Divinity? If so, then for no other reason than this would it be a wonderful idea to connect with our inner child, and to bring it up from the deep to see the beauty in us all.


Karen Gay, A-Roaming Bodyworker, is a holistic health practitioner practicing in Hanoi. For information on the types of services provided, visit

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