I recently came across this quote and it gave me pause. The profoundness of the statement invites one to reflect on the nature of the relationships in one’s life as well as each potential relationship. Initially I thought Tolle was repeating the frequently expressed counsel, to love another, one must first love oneself. The premise with this advice is that you cannot fully receive love if you are unable to love yourself.
The Human and the Being
What Tolle is suggesting goes beyond self-love and beyond empathy. It’s more than sharing or understanding another’s feelings or emotions.
Tolle asks us to recognise the other as our self. In so doing we can potentially experience true love. He explains that, as human beings we embody two dimensions, the ‘human’ and the ‘being’.
“The human is the form,” he says. “The being is the formless, timeless consciousness.”
According to Tolle, true love emanates from the timeless, transcendental nature of who we are. He believes that love becomes a source of suffering when the transcendental is missing. To bring in the transcendental we need to step back and give each other space. Tolle believes that in this space, thoughts or emotions become unimportant. We simply access the stillness within ourselves when we look at the other.
I Am, That I Am
The rock band, Pink Floyd wrote, “I am you and what I see is me.” Were they inviting us to recognize our self in our fellow human being and thus drop the illusion of separateness and become aware that we are one and thus allow ourselves to experience true love?
Tolle suggests that, “love makes the world less worldly, less dense, more transparent to the divine dimension…”
Explore the divinity within yourself and in others, venture into that space that allows the transcendental to enter and to take form in love.
Karen Gay, A-Roaming Bodyworker, is a holistic health practitioner practicing in Hanoi. For information on the types of services provided, visit a-roamingbodyworker.com